Every month a different grown person answers your questions about love and life. This month’s special guest: Damian Kulash of the band OK Go!
Next month’s column will be Ask a Grown Woman. If you’re a girl who goes out with girls or if you’re just wondering something about girls, please email us your questions: youaskedit@rookiemag.com.
Video shot by Damian and edited by Rivkah.
Hello, you. June’s theme will be LONGING. Unlike more-acute forms of desire like desperation or need, longing is a sweet ache—more pining for something than dying for it. It’s nostalgia, homesickness, boredom, a persistent feeling of lack, dreaming of escape/the future. It’s summer: summer homes & cottages, stuffy summer bedrooms, sun-bleached memories of summers past. The shadow of September that hangs over June. It’s secret hangouts, crushes, unrequited love. Send what you’ve got here, and thanks. ♥
Thank you Damian for keeping it real! I absolutely hate it when adults pretend that problems like sexism can simply be fixed with a brave statement. Damian told it like it is which is refreshing, because now I don’t feel like I’ve failed if I can’t simply fix my problems with one sentence!
Log in to replyI love OK Go!! He answered these questions great.
Log in to replyI LOVE THIS
Log in to replyreally great advice and his smile at the end killed me :)
Love Damian Kulash! Great answers. &I totally agree that every bohemian is a psuedo-bohemian.
Log in to replyhehe he has the cutest smile :) *yay*
Log in to replyi totally get falling in love with an image. thank goodness i realized this in time (kind of)…phew.
–instead of an elephant
Log in to replyAdditional advice from a grown up: That is what husband material looks like.
Log in to replyagree.
Log in to replyWELL HELLO. And my question is….are you single?????
I am the Blanche Deveraux of the Rookie staff
Log in to replyomg marie
Log in to replyi have that question too! damian, you are so cute and grown up and cool and handsome and cute and grown up and funny. xx
Log in to replyBlanche Deveraux!!!!! I agree with this. Marie is a total babe.
Log in to replyhaha Marie :’)
Log in to replyall this advice was sooooo good
Thank you Damian for keepin’ it real + looking so good + playing awesome music + for spreading awareness of the sexism all around. X
Log in to replyteen boys with gross hairdos that listen to minor threat were(/are?) my lifeblood
Log in to replyi envy that! boys at my life are so plain and typical of casual. talking about the same thing, dress up the same thing, listen to the same thing which means pop music. don’t be surprise if they think about the same thing! so boring.
Log in to replythis comment is a marriage invitation from me for damian kulash. seriously, damian. take it into consideration. get back to me.
Log in to reply@diny Same! I have a mini crush on him now and guys at my school all wear Axe, flirt with popular girls, and listen to pop music.
Log in to replyMaybe I’m crazy but I’ve always felt like my life has been FLYING by. And it’s moving faster and faster every year. :( People who feel like their lives are moving slowly – enjoy it!
Log in to replyNow I finally HAD to register because I was like:
Log in to replyOh my God: Damian Kulash talking about life and sexism?
Rookie, now I love you even more :D
You’re really the very best Teenage-Website on the world!
Keep up the great work!
I love this section. I wish this (and Rookie) had been there when I was a teenager.
Log in to replyMy love for him was just taken to a higher level. omg.
Log in to reply“The best people make the worst mistakes.” I don’t know how much truth it holds, but it definitely helped me get some feelings out. As soon as he said that I felt the waterworks coming. Loved the video.
Log in to replyHehehe
Log in to replywow, great stuff! why do we have to feel like we ‘must’ know everything when we don’t?
Log in to replyreality check time!!
“It’ll be over soon… in forever”
Log in to reply*cute smile/shrug*
Note to Beth from California:
Log in to replyDeveloping a thick skin is NOT the same thing as becoming desensitized. Developing a thick skin towards sexism just means you learn to realize that you don’t have to take it personally. It doesn’t mean you learn to keep your mouth shut. It’s not about you, it’s about something bigger. It’s about the shitty way society teaches us boys and girls to behave towards one another, and it’s up to all of us to break the cycle. Don’t ever ignore your instincts. They’re there to keep you safe! If something makes you uncomfortable, take a minute, put it in as much perspective as you can, and address the thing, not the person.
Real cool, practical advice. Thanks Damian.
Log in to replyWhat a lovely and delicious man. Just going to go and download everything OK GO ever made then.
Log in to replyomg he is so cute period
Log in to replyCan we all just play 1:13-1:28 over and over and over until we curl into fetal position and begin sucking our thumbs
Log in to replyI can’t even speak he’s so
This is my favorite Ask a Grown Man ever.
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